How to Stop Being an Excessive Planner
Are you an excessive planner? A bonafide perfectionist? Maybe even a little bit of a control-freak? Hey.. me too, girl!
I’ve always been religious with carrying a planner, writing down anything and everything that’s going on in my life. You could always count on me to plan any party, trip, or hangout session down to the minute (I apologize to all of my friends and family that I’ve probably stressed to the max due to my obsession).
I’d always get comments like “Why can’t we just go with the flow?” or “Why does it matter if we’re a little late?”
But thinking about just one thing going wrong because I didn’t plan everything down to the smallest detail gave me nightmares. I’ve always thought that the perfect plan was the solution to any problem!
But what if trying to have the perfect plan is the actual problem?
God has been trying to teach me this important lesson for my entire life. And even though it’s been a true struggle, let me tell ya.. I think I’m finally starting to realize where He’s coming from. Isn’t it so freeing when we can truly accept God’s ways as higher?
If you’ve been struggling with this type of perfectionism and you’re ready to break free, I’ve put together four powerful truth bombs below that’ll give you a whole new perspective on having the “perfect plan.”
You Can’t Be Perfect By Your Own Means
You might be saying, “Wow! Okay, Cassidy… Thanks. That’s a little harsh, don't you think?” Yes, I know for you perfectionist out there that one probably hurt a little. It hurts me too. But it’s so important to hear the truth, my friend!
We must understand that we are human which means we will sin, we will mess up, and we do not know the perfect way to go about things. Only through the Lord Jesus Christ can we be made clean and perfect. Only by being saved can we be seen as flawless in God’s eyes, and only through Him will we be able to participate in a perfect plan.
God’s perfect plan. Not our own.
God Should Direct Your Steps
Which leads us into the next truth. We should be looking to God for our next move.
It says in Proverbs 16:9, “A man’s heart plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps.” We see here that planning isn’t necessarily the enemy. It’s wise to make a plan, steward your resources well, and organize things correctly in order to try and achieve the best outcome. However, we can’t plan so much and cling to what we think is best so tightly that we miss when God tries to change things up.
It says we plan. But it says that God ultimately directs. Make your plan, sister, but be open to God’s leading when you go to carry it out!
Our plans should be more like a blueprint, a starting point. After all, God can’t direct your steps if you aren’t moving, am I right?? But they should be just that and only that: a starting point. Allow the Lord to nudge you and guide you along the journey.
Yeah, maybe your plan will get changed. Maybe you won’t feel in control. But it will definitely turn out better than you could have ever anticipated because God’s ways are always the best!
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Resist the Fear of Failure
A huge reason that I always tried to over-plan was because of my intensely huge fear of failure. Being a perfectionist, I couldn't stand the thought of not succeeding. To me, failure meant being embarrassed, letting others down, and looking like I didn’t have it all together. Nuh uh, no way was that gonna happen on my watch! Maybe this scenario sounds familiar to you.
So what do we do?
We strive for perfect, stress ourselves out to the max, worry all about what others are thinking of us, aim to please everyone but God, and at the end of the day end up feeling burnt out, overwhelmed, and completely unfulfilled. Is that what the Lord wants for us? Absolutely not!
In 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 it says, “But He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weakness, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”
This verse shows us that we don’t have to be ashamed or afraid of seeming weak or unsuccessful. Because those moments are when God’s power and strength are allowed to shine through, ultimately glorifying Him and giving us an outlet to point others to Christ!
We should embrace our shortcomings and the fact that we can’t plan everything perfectly by going forward in faith that God will help us to conquer feats that we wouldn’t normally be able to conquer on our own.
Why We Don’t Need to Know the Outcome
A lot of times over-planning is rooted in the obsessive need to know exactly how everything is going to play out. We can’t stand to leave things up to chance and perhaps leave room for a different scenario than the one we’ve concocted in our heads. Deep down we’re just scared and need that sense of control as a comfort and a crutch.
If we can release that need to know what’s going to happen in the end.. If we can just let go of the idea that we can’t do something without having a guaranteed outcome… Then I promise you we’d get a whole lot more done!
See, sister, the true reason we don’t need to know the outcome is because God does! We need to replace our comfort in having control with comfort in knowing that God is in control.
If God’s got this (and He most certainly does!) then we don’t have to. He’s got it covered and can see the big picture, and if he hasn’t revealed that picture to you then it’s for a reason! Trust Him and all His wisdom and knowledge. Trust Him and all His power. And start letting go of the weight you’re carrying on your shoulders to know it all, do it all, and have everything under control.
Release your need to have the perfect plan over to the perfect planner Himself.
Yours In Christ,
”For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6
“Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans.” Proverbs 16:3
“Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.” Proverbs 19:21
“All of this comes from the Lord Almighty, whose plan is wonderful, whose wisdom is magnificent.” Isaiah 28:29